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Over the past couple of years there has been a new trend developing in online communications.  No, it’s not the use of Twitter or Facebook, although those two technologies are a huge trend that is sweeping the country.
The new trend actually has more to do with using an old technology in a new way.  Electronic mail (e-mail) has been around for a long time and it would be hard to find anybody midtown music atlanta nowadays under the age of 65 who doesn’t have at least one email account.
midtown music atlanta Email has fundamentally changed our world, both in our personal lives as well as in our businesses.  However, as is often the case with technology, it can be a double-edged sword.  Because of the inherent privacy built into having your own personal email account, midtown music atlanta a new type of “affair” has evolved.  By traditional definition, an affair has meant an intimate physical relationship with another who is not your spouse.
However, email, and the Internet in general, has created a new type of affair.  This type of affair could happen between two people who live thousands of miles apart and maybe haven’t even actually met, yet they have grown emotionally attached through intimate conversation and the sharing midtown music atlanta of very personal information.
There are those who will argue that this is simply a form of friendship, midtown music atlanta there has been no betrayal. midtown music atlanta Yet, if the act of having sex with someone who is not your spouse is bad, but a highly intimate and emotional relationship with someone who is not your spouse is OK, then I think the bigger point is being missed.
I submit that by definition the act of having sex is as much an emotional and intimate experience as it is a physical one, and I would also argue that it is this intimacy midtown music atlanta and emotional connection of sex that is the root of the feeling of betrayal.
Many couples have started sharing accounts simply as a way to consolidate all electronic bills or online statement communications, however over time they have grown to appreciate the “built-in safety net” of the idea.
The temptation of an online affair with someone over the internet still exists, and someone midtown music atlanta who is determined to cheat will still cheat, midtown music atlanta but sometimes the simple knowledge that someone else might easily see the communication you are sending out helps keep honest people honest.  But the real value seems to be just the confidence that there doesn’t appear to be any secrets.
James Furrow, a professor of marital and family therapy at Fuller Theological Seminary, an evangelical school in California, said sharing an account can be helpful if the goal is promoting openness. But he said the practice can hurt a relationship if it s meant as an act of deterrence.
We can take steps to manage our behavior, but then the problem with that is it begins to become the emphasis rather than the trust of giving the other the benefit of the doubt, Furrow said. What you end up with is the doubt.
While this approach midtown music atlanta to openness in marriage may seem trivial and ineffective to some, for others who are proactively looking for ways to strengthen their marriage midtown music atlanta relationships, the idea is one that is starting to spread throughout marriage support groups like Focus on the Family and the Coalition midtown music atlanta for Marriage, Family and Couples Education (CMFCE).
This has become a sad commentary on our society and the insecurities that lie within it. I believe that you should midtown music atlanta be open with your partner, share your life. However, If you or your partner feel the need to have access to everything that belongs to the other then I think you have problems within the relationship. You should be able to develop a trust with your partner as you grow together, not because he or she has proven to you that they aren t hiding things from you. I believe that in a relationship, midtown music atlanta you have things belong to you both, I also believe that to have a healthy relationship you have to have things that are also yours as an individual, whether that be friends, activities or even something as simple as your own email account. Come on people, if you can t trust your partner midtown music atlanta with a simple email account, do you really have anything?